Should I Break Up With My Boyfriend For Cheating?

It can be devastating to find out that your boyfriend is cheating on you. At some point however, it is possible that he will ask for forgiveness, and at that point you have to decide the terms of your relationship. So what do you do? Walk out of the relationship or give him a second chance?

Option 1 - Staying Together

You can choose to stay together. Depending on your circumstances, staying together can be either a second chance for him, or it could be fighting a losing battle. You may never fully trust him again, and if you resorted to some violation of privacy to detect his cheating, he may have trouble trusting you as well. That being said, many strong relationships have survived a cheating partner.

If you stay together, make clear that you are not going to take such behavior lightly and you will not give him a second chance. Don't fall into the trap of becoming complacent with something that's hurting you.

See our article on How To Forgive A Cheating Boyfriend for more on what he has to do in order for you to let him into your heart again.

Option 2 - Breaking Up

You can choose to break up with him. Once you have decided this, the only question is how. You can choose to ignore him completely and keep your feelings to yourself, but then you will always be keeping a part of that pain and anger with you. The best way to reach closure is to confront him, and tell him everything you wished he knew.

(See also our page on Breakup Advice for more on breakups, including how to break up and what to do after the breakup.)

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