How To Deal With A Cheating Boyfriend

You've found out that your boyfriend has cheated on you. What now? A lot of things might go through your mind at this point: Why did he do it? What should I do next? Should I take revenge?

We want to emphasize that it's not our place to tell you what to do. We can only give you information that might help you to make a more informed decision. That being said, let's see if we can look at some of the thoughts that might be running through your mind.

Should I Take Revenge?

Probably not. There's a part of you that wants to do something, break something. Taking revenge may give you a temporary outlet for that energy, but it will not provide a solution. At best, it's a waste of time, and at worst, you can come to hate yourself for your behavior.

That being said, it's very important to express and vent your feelings somehow. Keeping it all to yourself pushes all of that negative energy inward and can lead to depression. Talk to someone you trust, keep a diary, or even punch a bag.

Confronting Him About His Cheating

If you feel like there is still something that needs to be said to your boyfriend, it's very important to say it to him. Otherwise you will keep it to yourself forever, and it will affect your relationships in the future, as well as becoming a permanent regret.

When should you confront him? As with many situations, the best opportunity to do this is the first one. The more you put it off, the more you will try to talk yourself out of it.

How should you confront him? See our article on How to Confront a Cheating Boyfriend.

Should I Break Up With Him?

At the present moment you may not even want to think about or look at your boyfriend. However, you will eventually think about the times you spent together and it is likely that you will miss him.

Therefore, sooner or later you will have to make the decision of whether you want to stay with him or not. We can't tell you what to do, but we look at some of the options regarding to breaking up on our Should I Break Up With Him page.

Final Thoughts

None of this is easy, but we hope we've given you some guidelines that will help you figure out what to do. If not, we welcome your feedback.

May you find joy and happiness in all reaches of your life.

Lisa

(See also our page on Why Men Cheat.)

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